Embrace your FEARS to achieve your DREAMS

We all have amazing dreams, dreams that when you are thinking about them will either give you goosebumps, bring a big smile to your face, or just take you to another dimension.


But most of the time they are just that, dreams, nothing more.


But why?

I had been asking myself this question a lot, and realized that I was surrendering myself to FEAR; fear of failure, embarrassment, ridicule, criticism, loss of love, respect, money and others. All these fears paralyzed me, I thought I had to do a reality check and said “I can’t do that…” and thought of multiple excuse why not.

 

But one day, I ran out of excuses, the desire was growing too strong that I felt that I had to do something!

 

So I started researching how to overcome my fear and came across an idea I loved, I didn’t have to overcome it, I could embrace it, use it to my advantage, and listen to my desires. As Tim Ferris says:

Fear is an indicator. Sometimes it shows you what you shouldn’t do, but more often than not it shows you exactly what you should do.

 

So I read multiple blogs (Tim Ferriss, Brian Tracy, Oprah, and many more) and did a ton of exercises to evaluate and define the actions I should follow to embrace my fear and change from “I can’t…” to “I can…”

 

To make it easier for you, I summarized all the exercises to one.
So get a pencil and paper out and let’s get down to work!

Yes, it will take time. But if it is important to you, then it must!

 

1. Define the problem


Write down what is holding you back in making your dream a reality. If you don’t have it top of mind now, look for situations where you have used the word
but.

 

I want to             , but              .

 

My case:

“I want to travel the world, but I don’t have a job that gives me the flexibility to do so and I don’t want to use all my savings”, “I want to write a blog, but I don’t know how to write”, “I would like to create my own company, but I’m afraid it will fail”.

 

Great! We are a lot closer than you think, once you have identified the problem is much easier to find solutions.

Think about it, when you want to find something you suddenly start to notice details that were always there, but you weren’t paying attention. So by paying attention to the problem, your mind will be focused on looking for solutions.

 

2. Write down what is the worst that could happen


For this part we want to identify the what will happen IF: you lose your money, you end jobless, you get criticized, you lose credibility, you get sick.

 

Write them all down, we want to get prepared and start facing our deepest fears.

 

Let’s continue with one of my examples above as a reference:

“I want to travel the world, but I won’t be able to keep my job and will have to use all my savings for it”

  • If I use my savings then I won’t have money to pay for our family spendings in the future.
  • If I quit my job now, I might not get such a good one as I finish my world travel.

 

As you finish digging deep into the worst case scenarios, you might be feeling a little overwhelmed. So you can get a little break, do something that gives you energy, that makes you happy, so you can release a little tension for our next exercise.

 

3. If – Then


In this part, we will assume that the worst possible outcomes do happens, and we will look for solutions for these situations.

This is a great exercise to prepare ourselves for what might happen and in turn make educated decisions once we find ourselves in one of them.

 

If  (my worst possible outcome happens)  then I would  (find a solution) .

 

My case:

“I want to travel the world, but I won’t be able to keep my job and will have to use all my savings for it”

  • If I use all my savings then I will ask for a loan to pay my basic bills.
  • If I don’t get a job as the one I had before my travels, I will look for opportunities where my previous experience + my travel delivers value.

 

I know we don’t want these scenarios to happen, but giving them a name and a value helps to reduce our fear of the unknown.

 

4. Plan to prevent


“The best defense, is a good offense”, we might have all heard it once. This means that when you act proactively, you are more likely to get the outcome you are looking for.

So, as we have already identified the worst that could happen, now we can define everything we can do to prevent it from happening and assure to get the best possible outcomes.

 

In order to avoid  (my worst possible outcome 1)  then I would  (the action to prevent it from happening) .

 

My case:

“I want to travel the world, but I won’t be able to keep my job and will have to use all my savings for it”

  • I don’t want to use all of my savings, but I’m willing to use X and look for a remote job with flexible timing. This way I can travel and gain an income to pay the daily bills.
  • To assure I get a better job than what I have now, I will train myself on the skills that are growing in relevance in the market so I have that to my advantage and learn all I can’t about my field and new business opportunities during my travels.

 

Now you will have an action plan, and can have a better understanding of the things you have to do to prevent the worst possible outcomes and at the same time get the best outcome.

 

5. Decide and focus


With a better idea of how to reach our dreams, we need to decide if we will do everything to achieve it or not.

Think on the following question:

 

How will my life be in 6 months, 1 year and 5 years if I decide to:

  1. Follow my dream?
  2. Don’t do it?

 

Note that it doesn’t mean that one is good and the other is not; they are just two different outcomes of your life that you are now going to evaluate to decide which one is the best one for YOU.

 

My case:

I won’t put all the detail here, but you can read about my decision process in my previous post. Spoiler alert, it has been 2 months since we started our Digital Nomads adventure, so you can have an idea what 5 year collection looked the coolest 😛  

 

Once you decide, you have to FOCUS!

Plan all the next steps you need to do to get the ball rolling for your plan and start doing it.

 

6. Celebrate every win and enjoy the ride


This last point is very important.

When we have a goal, we sometimes forget to celebrate the little wins, we will go all “until I achieve X I can be happy and celebrate”.

 

But reaching your goal is not only about the end results, it’s also about the journey, the moments and learnings you have on each step.

 

Don’t forget to celebrate every win, everything matters!

Life is a journey so enjoy the ride!

 

Good luck, let me know how it goes.

 

Big Hug,

Caro